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Would love to study with you, but I have something planned tonight. Sorry!

Uh. Okay?

Ann, I don't think we have any classes in common and I wasn't offering.

Oh omg Penelope!!
I'm so sorry, this stupid misfire thing :(

Totally okay.

Who've you got plans with :3

Uhhh
My...boyfriend...
Don't Youtube vlog this or anything okay?

Oooo.
You and Mako?

And don't worry, I won't. Scouts honor.
And before you as, yes, I was a girl scout.

Wait what?!
How do you know?!

Okay, Scout's honor. Got it. That's a huge promise!

I know Mako.
He said he had a crush on a girl named Ann at my party the other week.

Put two and two together and what do you get?

Oh.... He told you, huh?

Well...yeah. He's my boyfriend now. That's not weird, right?

Confession time: We used to date.
Sooooo he's pretty terrible at keeping things from me.

We broke up because it wasn't going to work out though. (And it was me, because I'm a mess)

It's not weird. At all.

I'm very, very glad that he found someone cool.

Oh

Wow....I had no idea? So you guys ended on good terms, then? I mean you must have since you invited him to a party, right?

Yep. This was like two years ago.

And yeah. we're on good terms.

Not like that though. No worries about me horning into anything.

I'm very, very taken.

[And she will send over a picture of herself snuggled up under Freya's arm.]

You have a girlfriend?!
Congrats!! I had no idea! That's sooo cute :)

Can I ask you for some tips though? Or is that weird...

Yep. Freya and I have been dating since June.
It's not something I talk about on the channel because, y'know, kinda private.
But I'm working with Freya to get better at games so maybe she can be a guest sometime.

And you can totally ask for tips with boys. Not Mako specifically because that's a breach of his trust. But general boy tips? I got you.

That's a good idea! Then she can come onto your channel and be popular, too! Haha

Yeah, totally. What happened with you two isn't really my business. But...I just wanted to know, how fast is too fast in a relationship? Like, when do you usually say "I love you"
and stuff?

Oooh, that's a tough one.

I'll be honest? I haven't said I love you to Freya yet. I think maybe I do?
But I also don't know, and I'm probably a little more skittish about that than most people.

I think that that word, love, is something you should hold onto until you're absolutely, positively sure. It's not like it's a competition, after all.

But other things? It's up to you. Kissing? I kiss on the first date. I actually slept with Freya before we officially started dating, but we'd known each other for months at that point.

Again, what I'm really getting at is that it's whatever you feel comfortable with. There's no 'too fast or too slow' just what you feel is right. And Mako will understand.

Okay.
I...don't know, but it just feels like I'm really falling for him? It's happening really fast.
But I don't wanna, like, spring it on him too soon...especially if he doesn't feel the same way.

[ little does she know ]

But you're right. I know people are always saying "don't take things too fast" but that's really not for anyone else to judge except the two people in the relationship, right?

You're right. It's only for you and him.
Just like it's only for Freya and I.

If you want to kiss him but don't want to save you love him? Totally okay.
Just like it's fine for me to sleep with Freya and not know if I love her.

It's nobody's business but yours.

You do what you want. I know him, he won't push you. He's a decent, hardworking guy.
Take things at your pace.

Also, and this is just for my own curiosity. Is he your first partner?

Okay. I'll...I'll wait until I'm totally sure. We've only been dating for less than a week, but I feel like...he's super special, you know?

Thanks, Penelope. I appreciate the advice a lot.

And yeah, he's a really good guy. I knew that since we met during bingo, I think.

...No, he's not. I had one before him in high school, but it was my first relationship and I screwed up a lot. I want to do things right this time.

That's pretty common. I mean, if nothing else you are infatuated and that's okay too!

And I don't mind. I've made my share of bumbling mistakes, and if there's something I can do to spare you the headaches I've gone through I will absolutely do that.

Haha, bingo, man.

And it's good that you do want to do things right. Just remember there's no right or wrong answers here. Just what you want. And what works for you.

Infatuated...?
But..I want it to last. I don't want it to be short.

I guess I'm just gonna go with the flow. I'm definitely overthinking it too much.... But I'm 18.
I'm an adult. I can make my own decisions.

Infatuated isn't bad.
But again, it's new, so who knows exactly?
It could be genuine love, but again, be careful with that.

And you may be overthinking it. I remember being 18, I remember overthinking everything.

It's normal.

And you totally can. Don't let anyone but you rule your life.

How do you know the difference?

Yeah. I'll keep that in mind. I just...don't wanna mess this up. I don't wanna ruin something that could be really good.

Time. If it fades? Infatuation. If not...

And I'm sure you won't, Ann. But if it doesn't go completely right? That's okay too.

That's just how these things go, sometimes.

Oh... I guess I'll just have to wait and see.
Thanks again for all this advice.
I'm still kinda new to all of this, so it helps to hear it from someone with more experience.

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