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That's a good idea! Then she can come onto your channel and be popular, too! Haha

Yeah, totally. What happened with you two isn't really my business. But...I just wanted to know, how fast is too fast in a relationship? Like, when do you usually say "I love you"
and stuff?

Oooh, that's a tough one.

I'll be honest? I haven't said I love you to Freya yet. I think maybe I do?
But I also don't know, and I'm probably a little more skittish about that than most people.

I think that that word, love, is something you should hold onto until you're absolutely, positively sure. It's not like it's a competition, after all.

But other things? It's up to you. Kissing? I kiss on the first date. I actually slept with Freya before we officially started dating, but we'd known each other for months at that point.

Again, what I'm really getting at is that it's whatever you feel comfortable with. There's no 'too fast or too slow' just what you feel is right. And Mako will understand.

Okay.
I...don't know, but it just feels like I'm really falling for him? It's happening really fast.
But I don't wanna, like, spring it on him too soon...especially if he doesn't feel the same way.

[ little does she know ]

But you're right. I know people are always saying "don't take things too fast" but that's really not for anyone else to judge except the two people in the relationship, right?

You're right. It's only for you and him.
Just like it's only for Freya and I.

If you want to kiss him but don't want to save you love him? Totally okay.
Just like it's fine for me to sleep with Freya and not know if I love her.

It's nobody's business but yours.

You do what you want. I know him, he won't push you. He's a decent, hardworking guy.
Take things at your pace.

Also, and this is just for my own curiosity. Is he your first partner?

Okay. I'll...I'll wait until I'm totally sure. We've only been dating for less than a week, but I feel like...he's super special, you know?

Thanks, Penelope. I appreciate the advice a lot.

And yeah, he's a really good guy. I knew that since we met during bingo, I think.

...No, he's not. I had one before him in high school, but it was my first relationship and I screwed up a lot. I want to do things right this time.

That's pretty common. I mean, if nothing else you are infatuated and that's okay too!

And I don't mind. I've made my share of bumbling mistakes, and if there's something I can do to spare you the headaches I've gone through I will absolutely do that.

Haha, bingo, man.

And it's good that you do want to do things right. Just remember there's no right or wrong answers here. Just what you want. And what works for you.

Infatuated...?
But..I want it to last. I don't want it to be short.

I guess I'm just gonna go with the flow. I'm definitely overthinking it too much.... But I'm 18.
I'm an adult. I can make my own decisions.

Infatuated isn't bad.
But again, it's new, so who knows exactly?
It could be genuine love, but again, be careful with that.

And you may be overthinking it. I remember being 18, I remember overthinking everything.

It's normal.

And you totally can. Don't let anyone but you rule your life.

How do you know the difference?

Yeah. I'll keep that in mind. I just...don't wanna mess this up. I don't wanna ruin something that could be really good.

Time. If it fades? Infatuation. If not...

And I'm sure you won't, Ann. But if it doesn't go completely right? That's okay too.

That's just how these things go, sometimes.

Oh... I guess I'll just have to wait and see.
Thanks again for all this advice.
I'm still kinda new to all of this, so it helps to hear it from someone with more experience.

Of course. Any time.

Take care, Ann.

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